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08-06-2007, 02:04 AM
Which Came First – The Performance Anxiety or the Premature Ejaculation?
Performance anxiety over sex can be a hard thing to overcome. It ranges anywhere from a little case of the jitters to being completely afraid of sex. Couple that with a premature ejaculation problem and you’re just asking to be celibate! Although anxiety is usually associated with psychological factors, they can ultimately have very real physical effects. And sometimes, it’s the physical problems like PE that turn into psychological trauma. Whichever your case may be, realize that there are usually a multitude of both mental AND bodily elements you need to find and conquer.
Let’s Get Physical!
Performance anxiety and premature ejaculation have generally been believed to be something of the mind. “It’s all in your head,” people will say. But since the 1980s, we are discovering that perhaps 80% of erectile dysfunctions begin with physical causes. These could be from health problems (such as diabetes, hyperthyroidism (http://www.herballove.com/library/resource/prematureejaculation/hyperthyroid.asp), etc.), surgical trauma, an accident, neurological problems (http://www.herballove.com/library/resource/prematureejaculation/parasympathetic.asp), drug or alcohol abuse, a side effect from medication, or over masturbation (http://www.herballove.com/library/resource/prematureejaculation/overmas.asp). By not acknowledging a physical aspect, you might never cure your problem.
One reason for performance anxiety may stem from premature ejaculation. Because you realize you may not last long enough in the sheets, you agitate yourself into a frenzy. This extra worry will not only make your PE problem worse, but will lead into other erectile dysfunctions. If your performance anxiety came first, then your resulting PE may only be a pit stop on your road to impotence. By far the most common problem with performance anxiety is not being able to raise the flag.
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When you get nervous or scared, your body goes into what’s known as a “fight or flight” involuntary response. Your body will either gear itself up to deal with the situation or it prepares to hightail it out of there. In this mode, your body produces more adrenaline, increases heart rate, and constricts the blood vessels of less vital areas, such as genitalia, in order to provide more blood to areas crucial to immediate survival, like the heart, lungs, and skeletal muscles.
This primitive instinct is what helped our ancestors kill the saber-toothed tiger or to keep from becoming a doormat for a charging woolly mammoth. However, it goes completely against what we need for sex. The hormones and blood flow needed by your penis to not only erect itself but to control the point of ejaculation is being diverted to somewhere else.
Also, with the increased heart rate and constricted vessels, your blood pressure will rise dramatically. There are several problems related to high blood pressure (http://www.herballove.com/library/resource/prematureejaculation/hbloodpressure.asp) (hypertension) that can affect your body and be the cause for your premature ejaculation.

Are you Mental?
Anxiety in moderation can actually be a good thing. It helps you focus your mind and body on what you’re doing. The extra adrenaline keeps you alert and provides more energy. But too much anxiety can lend itself to more than just a headache.
What you have to understand is how the mind and body are very much interlinked. Think of your brain, the nerves, and the parts of your body as a huge electrical circuit. Sex usually starts with your brain (fantasy or sexual thoughts) or some physical sensory perception: whether from sight – “Woohoo! Who is that hot babe?”; smell – “That’s some nice perfume you’re wearing”; sound – “I like the way you moan”; taste – “Mmm . . .” (I’m not going write that one); or especially touch – “A little more to the right. That’s the spot!”
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Your brain takes in these senses and will either tell your body to switch on or off. If all the lights are green, your body again will take in senses and send it back to the brain. This biofeedback from your body lets the brain know to either keep thinking about sex or to stop. The brain also releases chemicals and effects involuntary changes throughout your body, such as erection and ejaculation control.
There is constant play between mind and body. Because this is an ongoing process, anything along the way can disrupt the cycle. If your mind no longer has the desire or is thinking about something else (such as worrying about coming too early), it’ll tell your body to start shutting everything down. Or, if your body isn’t reacting properly, it’ll signal the brain to not think about sex anymore.
What you are thinking and feeling during sex have a huge impact on your performance. Negative emotions like anger, guilt, resentment towards the partner, and especially negative emotional experiences from the past can interfere with your excitement level.
So what may start off as a little bit of nerves can lead into a more serious problem if you’re not able to deal with it at the start. A single experience of impotence or premature ejaculation may make you hesitant to have it happen again. So it builds in your mind and worries you the next time you have sex, which only makes it happen again. This is the “vicious cycle” you keep hearing about.
Don’t Mess with Stress
http://www.atyafonline.com/vb/imgcache/105.pngAlong with anxiety, stress usually comes hand in hand; you worry during sex and you stress in between. Or perhaps, it’s just the stress of your daily life that’s getting you down. Either way, stress has similar traits to the way anxiety affects your body. Studies have shown that there is a link between stress and the level of your testosterone. The more psychological stress you perceive and endure results in a lesser amount of testosterone flowing through your body.
Testosterone is needed during sex to power your erection. Insufficient amounts will not only deteriorate your sex drive, but will lead to premature ejaculation and eventually impotence. Usually, this is a common problem with middle-aged men, known as Male Menopause (http://www.herballove.com/library/resource/prematureejaculation/menopause.asp). But anxiety can bring about these same changes and characteristics even for young males and teens.

4 Ways to Cure Performance Anxiety
Understanding
Understand what your fear is about and why it is there to begin with. Sometimes anxiety is built upon a deeper problem. It’s not your current partner that frightens you, but rather someone from your past or current problems outside the bedroom. If you have an open relationship with your mate, then talk things over to find out what the problem may be. Usually confronting the problem rather than trying to avoid the obvious is much more helpful.
Therapy may also be a solution if you need more expert advise about your sexual problems. Sessions may range from simple talking to breakthrough techniques like EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing). EMDR is a new method of confronting hidden emotional factors by inducing certain physical responses associated with memory. Coupled with other traditional methods, EMDR can be a “shortcut” to curing your anxiety.
Exposure
http://www.atyafonline.com/vb/imgcache/106.pngAnother way to combat situations of anxiety is to expose yourself more to it. It’s kind of like skydiving to get over your fear of heights. Fears and anxieties are usually manifested in your imagination. You don’t really know what will happen, but you sure are pretty good at thinking about the worst-case scenario. By letting yourself become accustomed to sex, you’ll slowly lose your inhibitions and concentrate on the moment, rather than on the what-ifs.
Developed by Masters and Johnson some time ago, a therapy method known as the “sensate focus technique” takes you through four stages that slowly acclimate you through your fears and anxieties. By taking the focus off of orgasm, patients are better able to concentrate on the sensory perceptions involved with sex.
But most importantly, STOP performing. Sex is not a show or a game where the goal is to climax. There is no audience (well . . . usually not). There are however the sensations and emotions of kissing, hugging, massage, oral, licking, and fingering each other. Sex should be fun and enjoyed in a relaxing atmosphere. By focusing more on the experience and the moment of just being with your partner, you’ll worry a lot less about the end result.
Medication
In our microwave-burrito-one-hour-photo-half-hour-sitcom society, we have become accustomed to wanting things now. So we’ve resorted to popping anything we can convince our doctors to prescribe. In severe cases of performance anxiety, a common response is taking Viagra. Although this may cure the symptom of impotence, it does not address the root of your anxiety problem. Cases of premature ejaculation can take low dosages of antidepressants like Zoloft and Prozac, which have the side effect of delaying ejaculation for a few minutes. But since these drugs were not intended for PE use, they will usually create other unwanted side effects such as the loss of libido.
Relaxants are also a way of easing your tensions about sex. You may not be able to help what your thinking, but at least your body won’t know it. Beta-blockers, such as propranolol (known as Inderal in the US), help by inhibiting the chemicals and hormones that trigger your body into the fight-or-flight state. You won’t feel the effects of adrenaline, your heart rate will slow, and blood will continue to flow to your genitals. There are also corticosteroids, such as Prednisone, that work by suppressing your immune responses. These drugs maybe help your body dictate what your mind should feel.
Herbs
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A better alternative to pharmaceutical medication is herbal supplements. Cost-effective and more available than medication, herbs offer a more natural way of not only helping you relax during sex, but having the added bonus of healing your body. Since performance anxiety and premature ejaculation usually stem from a physical problem, herbal blends help tackle the root cause of your bodily ailment. Instead of covering up your problems the way Viagra and Zoloft do, natural ingredients such as Gardenia and Nacre have been shown to improve causes of performance anxiety. The boost of energy and increased libido that herbs also offer can give you a better mental outlook and confidence in your sexual abilities.






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